Becoming a Fabled Beast

Hello and a belated Happy New Year. There's been plenty of anticipation and excitement in our household over the festive period because 2012 signals change for our little family. I've held off mentioning any of this over the last few weeks until plans were finalised.
The big news is that my wife has got a new job. Okay, for most of you that's not very exciting. But as she's a vicar that means change for all of us. The most visible change is that we're going to be moving. Not far. We're leaving our sleepy West Dorset village and heading to another sleepy West Dorset village some half an hour's drive west.
We're moving to a large vicarage - which is nice. But it also means lots of change in how we live our lives. With my wife taking over a full time role I'm going to become one of those fabled beasts - a full-time house husband. Scary eh? Okay with the twins at school it's not going to be too tough in childcare terms - just me and toddler Will most days. But during the school holidays I imagine the stress levels will rise.
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I've got to work out what housewives do. Sit around eating chocolate and watching Jeremy Kyle, right? Bitching about their husband on Mumsnet in outrageously unreasonable threads ironically beginning "Am I unreasonable..." or discussing whether Prof Brian Cox is shaggable or has a head like a balloon? Oh yes, pretending to have done some hoovering when hubby comes home? No.? More work than that? Okay, I'll look into it.
The twins are changing school. Thankfully rather than being upset they are really excited about it. We've been around the new school and it's really impressive. It's far from the old small village school you may imagine, it's a modern, well-resourced and exciting place for our children to continue their education. Village schools have certainly come a long way.
The biggest change for any of us is that my wife will be working full time in an exciting new job that could have been designed just for her. She's a superstar, but I know it's going to be tought adapting to a new full time job. The four of us at home are going to be a strong support team for wifey/mummy - with cuddles on tap whenever needed.
And what of support for me? There is of course the danger that I'm going to get more isolated and it's something I need to guard against. There is a village pub though - and I suspect this will be where I get to recharge my batteries and get away from a world that's normally about toy cars, crayons and Mr Tumble.
Let's not over-egg the pudding though. Perhaps I've made it sound like we're moving to the middle of Dartmoor. But we're hardly opting out of civilisation. There's a big Waitrose 11 minutes drive from our new home - yes we've timed it. Ten minutes from home is a mainline station with trains to London. While moving west we're going to be close to major motorways and therefore my family in the north. We're not even going to be living further away from the children's granny and grandpa. The mobile signal in our new house is better than where we are now and the broadband will be no slower. There's even a place where I can buy guitar strings a short drive away.
After several years of being married to a vicar, this will be the first time that this will be true in the classic sense - with a spouse in a full time role and our family in a vicarage. We keep seeing TV programmes that echo our new life to a scary degree. Having lived in a deprived London parish the brilliant BBC comedy Rev already seemed very close to home, we've had many of the same conversations/arguments as Adam and Alex. Now our life will be closer to that - mixed with the pressures on family life seen in the excellent Danish political drama Borgen. If Rev and Borgen could have a baby together that would be our life.
Time for a new adventure and to become a fabled beast.
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26/01/12 @ 20:06
Fabulous news...congratulations all round